Homeschoolers often encounter sharp criticism from people who are against homeschooling. This article examines the negative aspects of homeschooling, and also shares strategies for dealing with negative feedback.
Once my husband and I decided to homeschool, we were repeatedly confronted by well-meaning family members, friends and even total strangers who had heard bad things about homeschooling.
Negative interactions with loved ones who are anti homeschooling can lead to feelings of insecurity, frustration and discouragement. If these disagreements take place in front of the children, they can negatively impact the kids.
To learn about other problems with homeschooling, read this article about the disadvantages of homeschooling.
If you are a homeschooler who is facing criticism from those you love, here are 10 tips for dealing with negativity from family members and friends.
It is not easy to interact with people who disapprove of our choices, but remember, even those who express the most negativity are often operating from a place of genuine concern.
Try to address their concerns without becoming angry or defensive. Consider using one of the following responses:
Grandma: "You're ruining my grandchildren."
You: "Thank you for your concern. Will you pray for us?"
This will really throw them for a loop if you're a secular homeschooler.
Aunt Sally: "Why won't you let her go to school?"
You: (Smile) "Oh, I just love this pie! What's the recipe?"
Nosey Stranger: "Your children will be social misfits."
You: (Smile) "Thank you Mr. Nosey Stranger. Have a nice day!"
This would be the time to say, "We love spending time with you, but we will no longer discuss homeschooling." If your loved ones value their relationship with you, they'll do their best to keep quiet.
The good news is, it becomes easier to deal with criticism as you become more experienced and grow in confidence. In fact, I am no longer even phased by negative comments.
Your friends and family members who were against homeschooling will likely become your biggest cheerleaders once they see your children thriving. Until then, do your best to preserve those difficult relationships, while also reaching out to those who understand and support home education.
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